Late last year, I sat down with Cailey Root, the owner of Toronto’s very own La Petite Mort, to talk about her new store and ask the really hard questions (like whether she’d Fuck, Marry, or Kill the Tantus Rumble). The store is online-based, catering exclusively to Canadians looking for beautiful, body-safe toys without having to go south of the border. She offers a wide selection of curated toys, as well as lingerie, lube, and my favourite – art! Check out La Petite Mort for your Canadian sex toy needs!
I write this with love – truly – because what I saw this year was a show in trouble, and as one of Canada’s few sex shows, this concerns me. Fewer exhibitors, fewer relevant features, and worst of all, fewer people. All hope is not lost, but I’m sure your accountants agree – something needs to change. In fact, looking at photos from past years, it looks like you already know what I’m talking about, simply with the downgrade of leaving Metro Toronto Convention Centre. I’m presumptively taking it upon myself to draw attention to the bad omens, the aspects of the show that need changing, and what can be done to make it better.
For the first time in a year, I’m publishing two blogs on the same day. Why? Because I don’t want to come off as negative, but I also don’t want the Everything To Do With Sex Show to read this and think that everything’s hunky dory. Because it’s not, as you can read in my other post: Problems With The Everything To Do With Sex Show 2016 (And How To Fix Them!)
But that’s not what I’m here to discuss, because while it may not have lived up to my expectations, there were some bright spots and good companies that I really want to shine a light on.
Not a motorway, not a BMW, but a sex club.
M4 (occasionally referred to as Menage a Quatre) is a lifestyle club in Etobicoke (just outside Toronto). Much like Oasis, it is a sex-positive environment that encourages consensual intimacy among open-minded individuals and couples. However, unlike Oasis, this particular atmosphere is geared a little more towards the swinging lifestyle.
The Mr. and I have toyed with the idea of trying out Club M4 for a while – primarily because well… it cheap, we poor. I loved Oasis, but the price was already a bit steep ($80/couple on weekends) before they jacked the price up to $95/couple, so we wanted to explore more affordable options for a casual night out. Once you get an annual membership ($20), admission ranges from $20-$50 per couple, and with drink prices coming in on the lower end of average, it’s definitely the more affordable option. However, with a more accessible price range comes a very different audience from the upscale Oasis Aqualounge.
I’ve had this fantasy for so long that I’m almost ashamed to admit my level of perversion; I was 12 when I found myself frequently visiting an outrageous and steamy scenario. I dreamt of sex in a room with other couples – watching their movements, hearing the moans – I dreamt of feeding off the sexual energy and being overwhelmed with the sheer act. I was probably 20 when I discovered that sex clubs were in fact a real place where normal people would go to have sex, and that my long-lived fantasy wasn’t so far fetched.
Last year was my first year attending the Everything To Do With Sex Show and I think you can’t truly enjoy it until you’ve been more than once. As someone who’s more than comfortable with sex and the sex industry, I don’t think I fully understood what I was walking into then. I enjoyed it, but I think between a lack of money and a still relatively new boyfriend, I didn’t know what could be there for me. We did some seminars, which were interesting, but not the excitement you expect from a sex show.